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Feeling hopeless or helpless? That you don’t have any control over your life? You can begin to feel more in control by utilizing one or more of your specific character strengths. You can take the Values-In-Action (VIA) Survey of Character Strengths to identify your individual strengths, and then by utilizing one or more of your strengths, feel more empowered.

Among the character strengths included in the VIA Survey are Social Intelligence and Perspective. Social Intelligence can also be termed as emotional or personal intelligence. It is described as the ability to be aware of the motivations and emotions of others and knowing what to do to adapt to diverse social circumstances. Perspective could also be viewed as “Wisdom”. It is an ability to see different points of view.

Here are some ways to cultivate each of these strengths:

To cultivate Social Intelligence:

  • Try to meet a new person every day.
  • Talk to someone at a gathering you might never expect to talk to.
  • Get involved in more social events.
  • Reach out to people who appear to be alone.
  • When conversing with someone, ask questions to understand what makes them happy and why they enjoy their particular interests and passions.

To cultivate Perspective:

  • Study a great quote everyday from great thinkers, writers, and philosophers.
  • Try listening to the opinion of someone with whom you do not entirely agree and stretch yourself to understand why they might have the stance that they have.
  • Educate yourself about historic people – their values, beliefs and their stand on prominent issues.
  • Have a mentor, someone you deem as a wise person, as a role model you can learn from.

Feel free to contact me with questions about your strengths and ways to creatively use them.

Deborah Barnett, Ph.D.
Positive Psychology counselling in Asheville, NC and Phone Consulting for Effectively and Positively navigating life’s challenges.
www.DeborahBarrnett.com

Breakthough!

As a Positive Psychologist and Coach I am very interested to see how this special will unfold. Tony Robbins is one of those guys for whom the answer, “Fine.” To the question “How are you?” is not good enough. He helps people achieve massive amounts of success. He is not interested in people getting better, but in having them thrive! This is what I addressed in my last post Is Getting Rid of Depression or Anxiety Enough? Positive Psychology helps people move beyond feeling “not so good” or even “good,” to experiencing what it is like to feel “great!”

Check out the Tony Robbins Breakthrough special and let me know what you think.

If you want to move from feeling “Not So Good” to “Great” I can give you some techniques to help. http://www.deborahbarnett.com/

Core Values DeborahBarnett.comCore values may seem like an abstract or lofty concept to some. Generally they are the chosen values of how one conducts oneself in life. Core values may include values such as health, love, service, loyalty, honesty, spirituality, and integrity, to name a few.  To choose your core values you might ask yourself, “What values do I want to represent?” or “If I choose to be a positive role model for others, what values to I want to exemplify?”  The value of choosing your core values is that your core values then provide a foundation from which to live your life. If for example, you are choosing whether or not to do a certain activity, or make a comment, you may ask yourself, “If I do or say this am I acting in harmony with my core values?”

I recently worked with a young man who was applying for jobs and also having challenges at home with his parents. We identified his core values and then thought about how he wanted to be regarded by his future employer. Using these same core values we then identified ways he could begin to cultivate a more harmonious environment at home.

Core values can be helpful because they can make our decision to “do the right thing,” easier.

Deborah Barnett, Ph.D.
Positive Psychology in Asheville, NC
Phone Coaching for Personal Growth and Relationship Success
www.DeborahBarnett.com